But here’s the truth. Being single is not a problem to fix. It’s a universal experience filled with opportunities, freedoms, and challenges for growth.
There’s something about being single that gets a bad reputation as if it’s some temporary state we’re all supposed to escape from as quickly as possible.
Still, I know how hard it can be to sit with those quiet moments and wonder if something’s missing. I’ve been there and can tell you that being single doesn’t have to feel empty. It can actually be exceptionally fulfilling.
Ahead, we’ll cover how to overcome loneliness and enjoy being single.
It’s Time to Shift the Perspective
I think it’s safe to say that all single people have heard the question, “So, are you seeing anyone?” and felt the sting of just how much value society places on being in a relationship.
And with that constant reminder, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that our happiness is tied to finding “the one,” but, again, being single isn’t a failure! It’s a chance to focus on yourself, your goals, and your happiness––without compromise.
Overcoming Loneliness While Being Single
Now, I’m not delusional. It goes without saying that no matter how independent we are, loneliness can find a way to creep in. Maybe it’s the quiet evenings at home, just after the sun starts to set, the holidays where everyone seems to have a beau, or even just scrolling through social media. Those feelings are real, and they deserve your attention, not your avoidance.
Here’s what’s helped me.
Instead of trying to push loneliness away, I started leaning into it. I asked myself what it was really about. Was I missing a connection, or was I craving something else—like purpose or… excitement?
Sometimes, loneliness isn’t really about wanting a partner. It’s about wanting to feel alive, seen, or understood.
When you can identify what’s behind those feelings, it’s easier to take steps to address them. Maybe that means reaching out to friends, picking up a new hobby, or volunteering your time somewhere meaningful to fill your life with things that bring you joy, not just distractions.
How to Find Fulfillment and Enjoy Being Single
One of the best parts of single life is the freedom it offers. You get to focus on you. Your passions, your goals, and your personal growth without ever needing to compromise for others. Want to stay up late binge-watching your favorite show? Do it. Want to take a solo trip to that city you’ve always dreamed of visiting? Book those flights! Being single means having the space to prioritize yourself in ways that can be much more difficult in a relationship.
However, it’s important to remember fulfillment isn’t exactly something you just so happen to stumble upon. It’s something you create. A practice that requires consistency. And like a muscle, it grows stronger the longer you work at it. The effort you put into your own happiness now lays the foundation for a life that feels whole.
This could mean setting aside time each day to focus on a hobby you love, whether that be making your health a priority or finally tackling that goal you’ve been putting off. Or it could be as simple as journaling about what brings you joy or as bold as signing up for a class that pushes you out of your comfort zone. The real key is to take consistent steps and spend some real time with yourself. Soon enough, you’ll find yourself living a life where you feel fulfilled on your terms.
Living Life on Your Terms
Being single lets you focus on what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. It’s an opportunity to build a life you love, embrace the freedom to be yourself and connect with the things that really matter to you. Loneliness might still pop up every now and then (along with the pestering questions from your family), but it doesn’t have to define your experience.
If being single feels uncertain or you’re struggling to find your footing, I’m here to help. Through Jasmine Coaching and Wellness, I work with people who feel the same, helping them uncover what true fulfillment means for their unique journey. If you’re ready to embrace your single life and create a fulfilling, meaningful path forward, let’s work together to make it happen.
References:
1. MBL Writes. How to Overcome Loneliness When Living Alone
https://mblwrites.medium.com/how-to-overcome-loneliness-when-living-alone-7860dbc818e7
2. Tiny Buddha. The Art of Being Single and Happy. https://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-art-of-being-happily-single/
3. Self. I Have a Great Partner—So Why Do I Still Feel Lonely?
https://www.self.com/story/feeling-lonely-in-relationship-tips
4. Time. Yes, Single People Can Be Happy and Healthy.https://time.com/6255111/single-people-happy-healthy/
